What If….

8 Mar

‘International Women’s Day’, yet again… 8 March. ..yet again pink coloured gifts…yet again a day of bumper sales for Archies, jewellery shops and merchandise retailers. A day to brag big things about women dignity, integrity and greatness. Yet, again a day to lecture about the “she”. Yet again a day when NGOs and government highlight the achievements.
I wonder is it the ‘special’ day or the ‘only’ day for women. Women’s day makes every female somehow conscious of her vulnerability, weakness and the “abla naari” image. But, I would blame it to my ancestors, especially Sita and Radha. I would present two incidents, where they could (and should) have stood for themselves. Their one action could have shaped the present in a more better way. Here are the scenes where Sita and Radha could have made lives better for the better half of every male.

Scene 1:

Ram has killed Ravana and thrusted his conquest over Lanka. He entrusts the working of Lanka to Vibhishan by making him the king of the land. While everybody is dancing with joy and heading towards Ashok Vatika to rescue Sita, Ram is walking quietly. Sita is overwhelmed to meet her husband after a long period of almost one year. As soon as she steps forward to meet him, he stopped her. She is confused, everybody present there is confused.

Ram: Sita, you have had been in a demon’s den… you should prove your chastity.

Sita doesn’t believe her ears. Is this the same man, for whom she sacrificced all the palace’s leisure, the same man whose name she was reciting day and night … how insensitive, how immoral… questioning his wife’s chastity in front of the whole world.

Sita: My lord… you don’t believe me??

Ram: I do… but this world… it would raise questions… I don’t want them to do so… that is why I want to bury this topic right now…

Sita: I don’t have to prove anything to anyone… what matters is you… because you are my world… and if you believe me…and why should you be caring about the so called world if they are wrong??

Ram:Β  I have to care about them… I am their King… I am accountable to them… and because the world is wrong… I have to show them the right path and not leave them with their wrong notions…

Sita: You are not accountable to them for your personal life…. but maybe you are right… people should be taught the right path… and only if you are so insisting… what should I do??

Ram to Laxman: Bro… light up the fire… Sita would enter it and come out…

Sita: Huh… and that would prove that I am chaste??

Ram: Fire is the most sacred and clean elements of all…

Sita: (Whatever) okay…as you wish my lord… Go ahead…

Ram: What? Where??

Sita: When were getting married… I had promised before this same fire that I would follow you like your shadow… and do everything to keep you happy… You had also promised to be my quisling at every step I take… I have to follow you… please lead me My Lord…

Ram: No Sita… you would have to do this alone…u can

Sita: I know… I can.. But i will not…

Sita says this and leaves the place…

Scene 2:

Krishna: I have to go to Mathura… our relation ends here..

Radha: Is it a relationship too weak that can be ended too easily?

Krishna: But what else can we do??

Radha: We can run away…

Krishna: How can we run away… I mean you are married…

Radha: So what?? In the coming future… you would be aiding Arjuna to flee away with Subhadra… even Arjuna would have been married at the time of this escape…

Krishna: But… but… i mean… we always knew that this would end… and by this we would preach the chapter of sacrifice to the world…

Radha : Sacrifice?? What sacrifice are you making? You would be having over 1000 wives.

Krishna : (irritated) What do you want?

Radha: Nothing from a man who himself doesn’t know what he can give.

Radha turns back and goes away.

So, after the above imaginary scenes that you read… do you think that if this had actually happened… then the present would have been different??

My ideals are not Ram and Sita where the former questioned the chastity of the woman he fought for and the latter answered that question in the way he wanted. My ideals are not Krishna and Radha, where the former gave no good reason for the break up and the latter agreed.

My ideals are Laxman and Urmilla who even after being separated for 14 years never came up with such issues and my ideal is Meera who almost forced Krishna to accept her…

By the way… a very happy and hopeful Women’s Day to all the ladies out there and a very heartfelt thank you to all the men who always try to treat women as humans… they deserve a bigger salute… πŸ™‚



11 Responses to “What If….”

  1. piyushpujara March 8, 2014 at 4:11 pm #

    Happy International Women’s Day.. πŸ™‚

  2. Shmruthi March 9, 2014 at 1:49 pm #

    Haha, I like your imaginary sequences better. I have also felt that some of the female figures in our ancient texts have been misrepresented. It’s time to rewrite history πŸ™‚ Happy Women’s day!

    • harshdamangal7 March 9, 2014 at 2:24 pm #

      thanks πŸ™‚ … waise I think that we obviously can’t change history but we can try to bring in change in present… so that when today becomes history no one could dare say that women of past i.e., today could have done better πŸ™‚

  3. randomlyabstract March 9, 2014 at 3:08 pm #

    I like Radha’s quote: Nothing from a man who himself doesn’t know what he can give.
    Happy (belated) Women’s day.!
    I too wonder so…is this like the only day we have? Dedicating such a day is like (1) men have no days (which isn’t true) or (2) men have all the rest of days. (which isn’t fair)!

    Anywayy. All they do is talk about how women should be given rights and stuff, yet they don’t practice it. kabhi kabhi I think aurat bht bechari makhlooq lagti hy. Though I understand what her role is and how important it is. But apny faraiz pooray karty karty sari zindagi khatm krdeti hy, most of the time without receiving her only tokens of appreciation: love n understanding.
    Khaer. I liked reading your post! Interesting stories.

    • harshdamangal7 March 9, 2014 at 3:20 pm #

      Thank you very much for such an extended comment now i would like to reply upon every aspect that u observed and commented on
      1. radha’s quote: I think It’s not only Radha but in every women’s life there comes a time when she quotes this…and interestingly the hearing party is always a male πŸ˜›
      2. dedicating a day: basically if we trace the evolution of this day, then it has connections with the time when people were considered slaves, so to liberate them and give special preference to women in that revolution this day was designed, but what we see today, it has in many aspects lost its true objective
      3. about practicing what they say and women being vulnerable… bhai mujhe to 1 baat pta hai… everybody has his or her role to play… agar koi appreciate nahi bhi karta to bhi u have to play ur role… bus u have to decide ki how u want to play it… plus take respect and give respect jabki auraton ko sikhaya jaata hai give respect and take abuses… so it’s not that people don’t respect her… kitni auratein hongi jo khud ko respect deti hongi… to bahut saari baaton pe depend karta hai…
      khair… happy women’s day( every day.. is women’s day yaar πŸ™‚ )

      • randomlyabstract March 9, 2014 at 3:35 pm #

        Exactly. It has lost its true objective, Harshda. Because freedom ke lye they can raise slogans and hold meetings but the point, and the only point, is giving RESPECT. Aurat ko decoration piece samajhny waly bad me tissue paper hi bana lety haen!
        You’re right. Taking respect n giving it is like the nicest code of conduct. One has to decide themselves how to play it kyunke “agar koi appreciate nahi bhi karta to bhi u have to play ur role”.. πŸ™‚

        Lol yeah everyday is women’s day. ^_^

      • harshdamangal7 March 9, 2014 at 3:47 pm #

        πŸ™‚ decoration piece ki to fir bhi koi aukat hoti hai… and as u said about respect wo sirf bolne se nahi ayegi… attitude change karna hoga aur wo karna sabse difficult kaam hai and here i am talking about a person’s own attitude… duniyawaalon ko to rehne hi do… khud me hi 10 % change le aayen bahut hoga

      • randomlyabstract March 9, 2014 at 4:02 pm #

        Hmm theek. All we can change is ourselves after all. .. πŸ™‚

      • harshdamangal7 March 9, 2014 at 4:36 pm #

        exactly πŸ™‚ πŸ™‚

  4. sharmishtha basu March 15, 2014 at 6:28 pm #

    bravo! this is how women should act! my heart always felt very sad for Sita (Esp) and Radha, Radha could atleast console herself that she had extramarital fling so God punished her for betrayal, but Sita was without a blemish, a heart filled with purest form of love.

    • harshdamangal7 March 15, 2014 at 6:50 pm #

      Thank You for the comment… actually there are so many examples of the image of vulnerability of women from past, that it is really difficult to change that, to understand the true sense of that and to mend that… people would like women to be like Sita, but no one would preach that don’t commit the mistake she did… they want us to learn her ways and not learn from her mistakes…

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